Defida

Hi lovelies!

I’m a 35-year-old Dutch woman and living with my boyfriend (yes, still boyfriend after almost 15 years) and our energetic English cocker spaniel puppy, who currently runs the household.

I’ve been working as a social worker for people who are mentally disabled for 15 years now, which is work very close to my heart. In 2024, I decided to start studying Applied Psychology, because I’m endlessly curious about people, behavior, and what makes us who we are. Learning while working has been both challenging and incredibly rewarding.

I’m an introverted nerd at heart, the kind who happily disappears into (smutty) books for hours. Fantasy is my forever favorite. Give me magic systems, dragons, epic quests, morally grey characters and a good D&D session, and I’m completely at home. I love slow, cozy hobbies: sewing, embroidery, and reading are my way of slowing down and recharging. I enjoy making things by hand and living life a little more intentionally.

But when the music starts? That’s where my true passion lives. Ballroom dancing has my heart — the elegance, the teamwork, the feeling of floating across the floor. And salsa? Salsa brings the fire. The rhythm, the playfulness, the energy — it makes me feel alive.

For balance, I also practice archery. There’s something magical about the quiet focus, steady breathing, and that perfect moment when the arrow hits the target.

Let’s exchange little pieces of our worlds 💌✨

XOXO Denise

I love to listen to my favourite music on vinyl. I use my pick-up at least once a day. Ik prefer rock music, but I love to listen to all kinds of music. From metal to r&b. I'll maken als short, random list of artists I like. Feel free to look some up on YouTube.

I like: The Beatles. Acdc. Nirvana. Jett Rebel. Aventura Ed Sheeran Di-rect. System of a down. Shaggy. Jean Paul.

Don't like: Hardcore/Hardstyle. K pop. Dutch pirate music. Schlager music.

• (psychological) thrillers
• romantasy
• smut

Some other random things I love: ♡ Scotland ♡ Dogs ♡ D&D ♡ Fantasy festivals (Renaissance faires) ♡ Psychology ♡ Fantasy ♡ Sewing (historical) ♡ Embroidery ♡ Photography ♡ Old paintings ♡ Hiking ♡ Animal crossing ♡ Vampires ♡ Ballroom/Latin dancing ♡ Archery ♡ Horror/spokky halloween stuff

Things I don't really like

.Pink .Glitter/Rhinestones .Bright/neon colors .Hello kitty .Kawaii .Twilight .Hardcore .Hardstyle .Cats .Cold .Winter .Christmas .Girly girl stuff .Pokemon .Receiving foods or drinkt like tea etc.